Unequal relationship

By , January 17, 2013 11:50 am

Have you noticed it’s the one who doesn’t like things who wins? Especially up against an easy-going type?

So … can’t stand music or radio in the car – OK, we’ll have silence. Can’t stand the smell of garlic, cheese onions, kippers – OK, won’t cook or eat them. Don’t like the smell of flowers or perfume - OK, houseplants are out then, along with a few other things.

A different kind of relationship: Allergic to just about everything – OK, madam, I’ll ask the chef to cook your sprouts without the chestnuts, give you extra parsnips instead of the Yorkshire pudding, and see that the top of your creme brule is an even golden brown without any dark bits.

Can’t stand these wet, dark days? You’re a very sensitive person who must have these things right? I’ll have a word with God.

Most relationships are a little uneven. There needs to be give and take. But if there is an habitual taker, they may not be aware of the damage and resentment they have caused. They will jog along happily, assured that all is well, because they have won, hardly aware that there was a battle and that the loser is licking his/her wounds.

So – Loser … don’t become a martyr. If it’s got to that stage, speak up. If speaking doesn’t work (very likely if you’re at that stage) act and hit them where it hurts. Be a bit selfish and determined.

Winner … if you’re very comfortable, just check what your sitting on – is it a cushion or crushed dreams? Oh dear, that’s a bit purple.

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